Positive behaviour>Catch them being good>Things you say

Thanks to Surrey CC for the ideas 

Behaviours to repeat

Keep calm
Focus on what is important – continuing the lesson
Ignore what is not vital – tactically ignore some behaviours (TIB-ing)
Speak what you want and say  “Thank you” as if to anticipate compliance, then look away
Give the student time and space to make their choice
Don’t be led off into secondary behaviours – smokescreens
Focus on the primary behaviour – don’t get sidetracked
Quietly comment to the student on their good choice 1:1
Ensure you notice them making an effort
Keeping things in perspective

Behaviours to avoid

Shouting
Arguing
Blaming
Pointing in close proximity
Getting too close when talking to student
Towering over them when they are seated
Using wide arm gestures
Staring
Defacing their work
Suggesting they have to do the work again
Rubbing out their work
Taking their behaviour as a personal affront
Moving sanctions to the ultimate too quickly
Adding up misbehaviours – cumulative “damage” 

Things to remember

Praise the action or decision, not the child
Provide positive recognition when good choices are made
If what you are doing is not working, change what you are doing
Never give sanctions in anger
Don't ignore inappropriate behaviour
Only give consequences when you are sure of what happened
You can accept a child while not accepting inappropriate behaviour
Never threaten what you are not prepared to carry out
We never learn resilience without facing frustrations
Our expectations will often determine a child's behaviour
Be patient with childish irresponsibilities but never with defiance and rebellion
What children say about how they feel is not necessarily so
After consequences are given out treat the child as if nothing has happened
Don't play favourites with your children
Each person is unique and special ... don't make comparisons
Be authoritative not authoritarian
Watch your emotions, children are good and reading body language

And for parents

Parents should never argue about managing behaviour in front of the children
Parents should provide a united front in managing behaviour
Don't believe everything your children tell you ... they are seeing things through many filters
Never listen to anyone talking about behaviour management unless you know their children are well adjusted and well behaved
How do you know when your child has enough self-esteem? ... you don't and your never will

Thanks to InfoSalad

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