Empathy is about validating another's emotions and feelings and perhaps even spending a little time coaching them that there are word that we can use to describe the feelings that are swamping their minds, so much so that they are unable to cope and have a melt-down. I often refer top this as lack of capacity, resilience and flexibility and awareness of it it underpins many of the methods we use in the SBM programme.
Having some take-up time, along with validation and coaching can often bring great results in the long term, without really wanting to use control methods to get short-term compliance and an apparent cessation of outburst. Using control methods simply shifts the emotions into another gear, often higher level and more destructive and more difficult to repair.
So it was great to read an article on parenting and some of the real-life experiences they faced and how their supportive, empathic strategies panned out, or not
Having some take-up time, along with validation and coaching can often bring great results in the long term, without really wanting to use control methods to get short-term compliance and an apparent cessation of outburst. Using control methods simply shifts the emotions into another gear, often higher level and more destructive and more difficult to repair.
So it was great to read an article on parenting and some of the real-life experiences they faced and how their supportive, empathic strategies panned out, or not