Kids who seem oppositional are often severely anxious and it's the core of this anxiety that we need to be working with, not just the piece of behaviour we have witnessed. This really good article gives some insights into the expression of anxiety that we often see and mistake for simple poor behaviour. It should really be a symptom of poor coping behaviour, a very different anilmal.
We frequently have 'anger management' pupils who have special courses with adults which focus on the internal management, but it is really the initial coping mechanism that needs building, and this takes some time.
James is terrified of being embarrassed, so when a boy says something that makes him uncomfortable, he has no skills to deal with it, and he freaks out. Flight or fight."
Most at risk, she says, are kids with ADHD who've also experienced trauma. "They're hyper-vigilant, they have no executive functioning, they misread cues and go into combat."
These examples are most frequently dealt with by fixed term or permanent exclusion, suggesting that the school has exhausted its capacity to manage ie control the child and his outbursts, when in fact, they have simply being doing the same thing, but with more force to gain compliance.
It's not compliance training that is needed here, it's capacity building